Women Shoe Psychology

The Psychology of Why Women Cheat Better Than Men

An overlooked question is who cheats better– men or women? I am proposing that not only do women cheat more than men; women cheat better than men which is why they are less likely to get caught. Typically, when a woman is caught cheating, she probably already had one foot out of the relationship. Many women use cheating as an emotional bridge to exit an unhappy relationship.

Women cheat better than men because most women are left-brain learners. Left-brain learners are people who master words, story-telling, verbal skills, details, rules, logical thinking, and organizational skills. Being a masterful liar requires someone who doesn’t leave a single detail to chance and is able to plan ahead for any future discrepancies in their alibi.

Girls learn to talk sooner than boys. Girls also use more words than boys. Women use three times more words than men in daily conversations. So when it comes to telling a believable lie, women have men beat hands down. When a woman is planning to cheat she will call her girlfriends to say that she was at their home, or they were out to dinner or shopping together. When men cheat they don’t typically call their male friends to lie for them in case their wife or girlfriend calls to check on their whereabouts. Generally speaking, most women don’t feel comfortable with their husband or boyfriend hanging around their male buddies because they already think that they are a bad influence on their partner and may encourage them to cheat.

So therefore, even if men decided to call their male friends as an alibi this would be an ineffective strategy because most women already view their husband’s or boyfriend’s male friends as liars and cheaters with no credibility. Additionally, men and women have different types of friendships which make it much easier and convenient for women to cheat. When men say that they are hanging with their male friends we assume that their social activities would include watching sports, playing sports or games or drinking in bars or clubs.

For example, it is socially acceptable for a woman to spend the night at a girlfriend’s home for no reason other than to watch chick flicks, eat chocolate, drink wine and polish their toenails. Women have very intimate friendships that allow them to bond in a way that is not culturally acceptable for heterosexual males. If a man said that he was going shopping for shoes and then to lunch with his male friend most people would consciously or sub- consciously question his sexual orientation and or the true nature of the “friendship.”

Women are better cheaters than men because they learn how to lie at an early age due to double standards in gender socialization in the home. In most families, parents are more lenient with their son’s curfew and rules about how to interact with the opposite sex than they are with their daughters. Usually parents don’t get upset when girls call their sons no matter how old their sons are. They don’t automatically assume that the friendship is sexual in nature. So boys don’t have to lie to their parents about why they are talking to girls on the telephone. Parents don’t typically demand to meet their son’s girlfriend before going on a first date. In fact, boys are conditioned not to bring a girl home unless he is emotionally serious about her. Otherwise he is allowed to simply date her without the stigma of being promiscuous until he finds the right girls who is “worthy” enough to bring home. Additionally, boys aren’t scolded for dressing too mature for their age.

On the other hand, most parents have strict rules regarding their daughters talking to boys on the phone and dating. Girls learn to lie to their parents when they are very young to simply talk to a boy on the phone even when there is no sexual chemistry or sexual nature to the friendship in grade school. Girls are not allowed to go on a date with a boy until he is scrutinized by her family even if she doesn’t like him very much. So in order to avoid the embarrassment of bringing home a guy that she is vaguely interested in to receive the third degree of questioning by her family; she learns the advantages of lying to her parents.

Girls learn that it is best to tell her parents that she is meeting her girlfriend at the mall, than deal with the invasive scrutiny about a boy that she is barely interested in; why she is wearing lip-gloss; or whether or not she is too young to wear mascara. Girls learn at an early age that the relationship rules in society are different for men and women and that it is imperative that she learns to fabricate believable stories that will maintain her virtue and honor, while providing her with the freedom that men take for granted.

Dr. Cassandra George Sturges MA, MA, is a mother of two teenagers, a full-time psychology professor, author of “A Woman’s Soul on Paper” ISBN: 0595171435; The Illusion of Beauty: Why Women Hate Themselves & Envy Other Women; Men Interviewed Tell: 101 Things Women do to Turn Men Off; Success & Beauty is an Attitude: A Woman’s Guide to finding herself and making her dreams come true. and Why Racism is a Mental Illness.

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